A Life that is Guided

How sweet it is to have guidance and especially when we need it. The Lord has given us guidance and when we learn where to look for it then our life becomes much more secure. The Lord has given us several ways to guide us.

Proverbs 11:3 The integrity of the upright will guide them,
But the crookedness of the treacherous will destroy them.

When you walk in integrity then that principle will guide you. If you always do the right thing, which is what is honest and kind then you will have your guidance of what you should do. If you live according to integrity then you will walk securely and confidently.

Proverbs 6:22 When you walk about, they will guide you; When you sleep, they will watch over you; And when you awake, they will talk to you.

God’s Word will guide you. God’s will never goes against His Word. If you live according to His Word then you will not be fearful nor will you fret. God’s Word will guide you, watch over you and talk to you as you journey through life. You will walk with great confidence.

Psalm 73:24 With Your counsel You will guide me, And afterward receive me to glory.

The Lord will guide you through His counsel. His Word will be your guide and your counselor.

Psalm 119:24 Your testimonies also are my delight;
They are my counselors.

The Lord will guide you through His Spirit. He will guide you into all the truth and the truth will be your guide.

John 16:13 But when He, the Spirit of truth, comes, He will guide you into all the truth; for He will not speak on His own initiative, but whatever He hears, He will speak; and He will disclose to you what is to come.

Jesus said that He is the way, the truth and the life.

John 14:6 Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life; no one comes to the Father but through Me.

Jesus will guide you through His Spirit and His Word until you see Him face to face and then He will receive you into His glory.

Psalm 48:14 For such is God, Our God forever and ever; He will guide us until death.

Finally, as you learn to allow Him to be your guide, then He will use you to be a guide to others.

Proverbs 12:26 The righteous is a guide to his neighbor,
But the way of the wicked leads them astray.

 

 

A Life Understanding a Man’s Need for a Friend

A man’s best friend should be his wife. She is to be his companion and friend for life. A man of many friends comes to ruin but there should be a friend that sticks closer than a brother and that friend should be his wife. Her loyalty should never fail. She should be his biggest fan in the bad times as well as the good times. A friend loves at all times.  A man needs someone whom he can always trust and who will always do him good. God’s design for a wife is that she should be her husband’s friend and companion.

The heart of her husband trusts in her,
And he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life. Proverbs 31:11,12

Understanding a Wife’s Need to Be Her Husband’s Friend

A man needs someone who he can trust in and someone who will stand by him all of the days of his life. He needs someone whom he can share his deepest longings and dreams and who will not laugh at him but believe in him. He needs a wife who he can confide in and she will not share with others the secrets of her husband. He needs a wife with whom he can be completely vulnerable. The only way that a wife can be the wife that God designed, is if she gives herself completely to the Lord. Becoming a godly wife is a process just as becoming a godly husband. Go to the blueprint of God’s Word and see what He says. His ways are perfect and you will be blessed as you follow His instructions. A trustworthy friend is one who is worthy of trust. That takes maturity but as you grow in your relationship with the Lord then you will grow in your trustworthiness. When your husband is your best friend and you are his best friend then life and marriage is sweet. Your cup will be full and the joy will overflow.

Many a man proclaims his own loyalty, But who can find a trustworthy man? Proverbs 20:6

Understand that character is what differentiates people. People will proclaim their love and loyalty but a trustworthy and faithful person is rare. Seek to become like Jesus Christ and allow Him to make you into the person that He designed and then you will be ready for the man of God’s own choosing in His time. If you are a trustworthy person then you will be a trustworthy wife.

A Life that Receives

There is One who gives and there is one who receives. We have been given a gift, the greatest gift of all, but if we do not receive it then we will not know it or have it. A gift must have a giver who gives it and a recipient to receive it.

John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life.

For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son. When you believe in Him then it means that you are receiving the gift that He is offering to you. The gift becomes yours. Jesus Christ becomes your Lord and Savior and you become His child.

John 1:12 But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, even to those who believe in His name,

The right to become His child and to be adopted in His family only belongs to the One who receives Him but He offers the right to everyone.

I John 4:14 We have seen and testify that the Father has sent the Son to be the Savior of the world.

Jesus Christ is the Savior of the world and especially to those who believe and receive the gift of His Son. That is why they are called Believers.

I Timothy 4:10 For it is for this we labor and strive, because we have fixed our hope on the living God, who is the Savior of all men, especially of believers.

It was totally by His grace that brought salvation to all men.

Titus 2:11 For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation to all men,

All men or women or children who calls on Him will be saved. When you call on Him, confess your need for a Savior and believe that Jesus Christ is the Son of God and that He died and rose again then you will be saved. It is available to all who call on Him.

Romans 10_9,10 that if you confess with your mouth Jesus as Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved; for with the heart a person believes, resulting in righteousness, and with the mouth he confesses, resulting in salvation.

It was on the basis of His kindness that He saved us and not on the basis of anything that we did to deserve it. His salvation is a gift according to His love and kindness.

Titus 3:4-7 But when the kindness of God our Savior and His love for mankind appeared, He saved us, not on the basis of deeds which we have done in righteousness, but according to His mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewing by the Holy Spirit, whom He poured out upon us richly through Jesus Christ our Savior, so that being justified by His grace we would be made heirs according to the hope of eternal life.

He offers you a gift but you must receive the gift for it to become yours. Have you believed and received the greatest gift of all, that is the gift of salvation through Jesus Christ? This is what it means to become a Believer. The world does not know Him because they have yet to believe in Him. He is true and He is good and He loves you. Will you call on Him today to become your Lord and Savior? He offers you forgiveness and cleansing from your guilt. He came to give you His life. His life comes to you through His Holy Spirit whom you will receive when you become a Believer. Ask Him today for the gift of salvation and receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.

I John 5:11-13 And the testimony is this, that God has given us eternal life, and this life is in His Son. He who has the Son has the life; he who does not have the Son of God does not have the life. These things I have written to you who believe in the name of the Son of God, so that you may know that you have eternal life.

 

A Life Understanding Man’s Need for Responses

One of the ways that a man will recognize the woman that God has chosen for him is that she will respond to his heart. The Bible says that it was not good for the man to be alone and that God made the man a helpmate who will correspond to him. Cor means heart and so correspond means that she responds to his heart. She learns all about the man and seeks to understand his heart, his needs, his dreams and his desires. She has an innate understanding of the man that God has for her. After they get married she continues to seek to know him and will seek to do what her husband would want her to do for him. This is one of the reasons that happily married couples who have been married for a long time understand what the other is thinking. They have become of one heart and one mind and it happens through seeking to understand each other. The husband is told by the Lord to live with his wife in an understanding manner and the wife learns to understand her husband and respond to his heart. A man learns to live with his wife through her responses to him. If she likes something, such as flowers or candy or gifts then her response teaches him how to please his wife. If he does something that is inappropriate or crude then she does not respond to it and he will quickly learn not to do it if he loves her. In a loving marriage each one seeks to please the other and the husband learns mostly through her responses.

Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18

Understanding a Woman’s Need to Respond

A wife communicates her love to her husband through responding to him. Responding to your man is probably one of the most powerful things that a woman can do. A man needs to be wanted by his wife and he feels loved and wanted when she responds to him. She needs to respond outwardly through her excitement at seeing him when he has been away or they have been apart for the day. Most husbands need their wife’s affections through touching and not necessarily in a sexual manner. A man loves to be touched by the woman he loves and it is an affirmation of her love. A  man generally will never get tired of kissing his wife and the more kisses that you give him in response to him then he will love it all the more. The man is the initiator and the woman is the responder. Sometimes a female needs to learn to respond and especially if she has been hurt in the past. The Lord will help you if you ask him.

so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, Titus 2:4

Understand that God made the man to be the initiator and the woman to be the responder. A man often does not know what the woman is thinking so he tries to understand what she likes and does not like through her responses so that he will know if he should continue to initiate in that direction and in that manner. Before marriage some females feel that they should be “cool” when a young man asks her out or initiates toward toward her but if she is interested in him then she needs to show a response that lets him know. She only needs to respond to what he initiates. If she does not care to be in a relationship then she can say no and that is okay.

The VERY WORSE THING that a wife can do is close off her spirit to her husband and pretend that everything is okay by going through the motions of doing her “duties” as a wife. She is not fooling anyone but herself and she is confusing the man. She is sending a double signal and it comes across very insincere because it is fake. Be honest, if you have been hurt, let him know in a way that is not judgmental or accusatory. Most men honestly do not know or understand females. He needs you but he needs you to help him understand your needs and you need him to understand you.

Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. Ephesians 4:32

We all need forgiveness. We need God to forgive us and we need to forgive each other. Marriage is challenging in the sense that it involves two people learning to live in harmony with one another, which means that we have to be kind to each other, tender-hearted with one another and forgiving each other. We can only do this if we have received and experienced God’s great love and forgiveness of our many sins.

A Life Filled with Wisdom

The Bible says that if you are wise then you are wise for yourself, but if you scoff you alone will bear it. What this means is that you will eat the fruit of your actions. If you are wise then your life will be sweet and if you scoff then your life will be bitter.

Proverbs 9:12 If you are wise, you are wise for yourself, And if you scoff, you alone will bear it.

How do you know if you are wise? You can not trust your heart because our hearts are deceitful. We must look at our actions to see whether we have a heart filled with God’s wisdom. A wise person is one who listens to counsel and receives it.

Proverbs 12:15 The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, But a wise man is he who listens to counsel.

The way a man listens to counsel is an indication of how much wisdom they have and also how they listen to reproof, which is correction. So whether it is instruction on what to do or what one is not to do, it lets you know the depth of wisdom in a person’s life.

Proverbs 9:8 Do not reprove a scoffer, or he will hate you, Reprove a wise man and he will love you.

Do you love those who reprove you or do you find yourself getting defensive or even finding fault in the one who corrects you? A scoffer is one who turns his back on the truth. The Lord says that in the day of judgment He will scoff at the scoffers. How much better it is to get wisdom. The wise will inherit honor and it is the Lord who honors those who are wise.

Proverbs 3:35 The wise will inherit honor, But fools display dishonor.

Wise men store up knowledge. The knowledge of the Lord is the greatest knowledge of all and there is no understanding apart from Him.

Proverbs 10:14 Wise men store up knowledge, But with the mouth of the foolish, ruin is at hand.

It is a fool’s mouth that gets him in trouble and brings about his own ruin. Also, a foolish woman will tear down her house with her own hands. A foolish woman will self destruct. Do you have any habits that are destructive?

Proverbs 14:1 The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish tears it down with her own hands.

A wise person turns away from evil. If you want much grief in your life then date a fool and then if you want even more grief then marry him.

Proverbs 14:16 A wise man is cautious and turns away from evil, But a fool is arrogant and careless.

You can tell what a person is like by the kinds of friends they choose. A wise person will want to be with wise friends but a foolish person also will choose their own kind. The same goes for the scoffer. Want to know what a man is like? Look at his friends.

Proverbs 13:20 He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm.

Wisdom is more desirable than jewels and nothing compares with her.

Proverbs 8:11 For wisdom is better than jewels;
And all desirable things cannot compare with her.

Her fruit is better than silver or gold. Wisdom will make your life sweet and deliver you from much sorrow. You will be blessed if you have wisdom and you will experience grief if you don’t.

Proverbs 8:12-21 I, wisdom, dwell with prudence,
And I find knowledge and discretion.
The fear of the Lord is to hate evil;
Pride and arrogance and the evil way
And the perverted mouth, I hate.
Counsel is mine and sound wisdom;
I am understanding, power is mine.
By me kings reign,
And rulers decree justice.
By me princes rule, and nobles,
All who judge rightly.
I love those who love me;
And those who diligently seek me will find me.
Riches and honor are with me,
Enduring wealth and righteousness.
My fruit is better than gold, even pure gold,
And my yield better than choicest silver.
I walk in the way of righteousness,
In the midst of the paths of justice,
To endow those who love me with wealth,
That I may fill their treasuries.

Jesus is the fullness of all wisdom and when you have Him then you will begin to discover His wisdom. Your heart will be encouraged because you will have received what is true wealth that will never perish and the true knowledge of God’s mystery, which is Christ Himself, in whom are hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge.

Colossians 2:2,3 that their hearts may be encouraged, having been knit together in love, and attaining to all the wealth that comes from the full assurance of understanding, resulting in a true knowledge of God’s mystery, that is, Christ Himself, in whom are hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge.

A Life with Understanding

The Lord is good and there is nothing twisted in His ways. However, if you do not know Him then you may think that He is not fair or that He may even be twisted in what He does. Not so, He is just and He is good all of the time. This is His nature and who He is. All of the utterances of His mouth are right and there is nothing crooked or perverted in them. Those who have understanding know this.

Proverbs 8:8,9 “All the utterances of my mouth are in righteousness;
There is nothing crooked or perverted in them.
“They are all straightforward to him who understands,
And right to those who find knowledge.

A person who has understanding will come to Him daily and even moment by moment will commune with Him. They will want to live in His presence and will not have to be like the horse or mule that requires something to make them come to God.

Psalm 32:9 Do not be as the horse or as the mule which have no understanding, Whose trappings include bit and bridle to hold them in check, Otherwise they will not come near to you.

The knowledge of the Holy One is understanding and it is sweeter than honey to the soul. There is no comparison to knowing Him and when you learn to live in His presence and in the knowledge of Him then you will truly know that nothing compares with the knowledge of Him.

Proverbs 9:10 The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom,
And the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.

The way to get more understanding is to keep his commandments. Many people want to understand His commandments before they do them but actually the obedience comes first and then the understanding. The Lord tells us to “not speak in the hearing of a fool lest he despise the wisdom of our words” so if He tells us to be that way then how much more will He not teach a fool His ways. It is foolish to not obey Him and do what He says.

Psalm 111:10 The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom; A good understanding have all those who do His commandments; His praise endures forever.

Understanding is what is supposed to characterize the people of God.

Deuteronomy 4:6 So keep and do them, for that is your wisdom and your understanding in the sight of the peoples who will hear all these statutes and say, ‘Surely this great nation is a wise and understanding people.’

What characterizes a person who understands and knows the Lord is that they will keep His commandments. To the degree that you keep His commandments is to the degree that you know Him.

I Chronicles 22:12 Only the Lord give you discretion and understanding, and give you charge over Israel, so that you may keep the law of the Lord your God.

To depart from evil is understanding. If you tolerate sin in your life then not only does the Lord not “understand” or excuse it but it is you who does not understand and know Him. How easy it is to say when we sin, “God will understand”. That is a lie from the devil.

Job 28:28 “And to man He said, ‘Behold, the fear of the Lord, that is wisdom; And to depart from evil is understanding.’”

The Lord loves you and He wants you to depart from evil because He knows that is for your good and for the good of everyone else. The Lord hates evil and wants us to hate it as well. Evil causes grief and He sent His Son to save us from evil. He has compassion on all.

Job 36:5 “Behold, God is mighty but does not despise any; He is mighty in strength of understanding.

Do you know Him and have understanding? Go to the Lord and ask Him for understanding that you might know Him. Read His Word and pray that you might understand it. He loves you and has come to give you light, life and understanding, which is the knowledge of Him. He makes your life sweet and brings life to the spirit and healing to the soul.

Psalm 119:130 The unfolding of Your words gives light; It gives understanding to the simple.

 

A Life Understanding a Man’s Need for Praise

Every man longs for praise. It is food for his soul and like honey to his mouth. It is sweet to him and keeps him going and believing that much is possible. A man will go where he is praised. A man becomes what he is praised. He needs to go from his mother’s praise to the praise of his wife. The praise of his mother when he is younger gives him the courage and faith to attempt great things. The praise of his wife encourages him in his successes and keeps him from being depressed and down in his failures. A man’s need for praise is fundamental to his well being. Every man struggles with a fear of failure but when he has a wife who believes in him then those fears are overcome. It is true that behind every great man is a great wife but she is a great wife because she is full of praise for her husband.

Understanding a Wife’s Need to Praise Her Husband

Women are often reluctant to praise a man but it is because she does not understand that praise to a man is like love to a woman. Without praise the man’s soul will dry up he will struggle with self worth. A man’s ego is what causes him to be a man and act like a man. It is a good thing in God’s design. A man’s ego is what makes him want to provide well for his wife and children. A man’s ego is a vital part of who he is. A woman does not have the same emotional makeup so she does not understand. She mistakes ego with pride. They are two very different things. Pride is trusting in yourself apart from God. Ego is trusting God to make you into the person that he designed. A man will become the person that he is praised. A son will become what his mother praises and a husband will become the man that his wife sees him as and praises him for being. Praise is genuine appreciation for what God has done in someone. We often see it but are hesitant to say it. Blessed is the man who finds a wife who will praise him.Let another praise you, and not your own mouth; Proverbs 27:2a A girl that learns to sincerely appreciate godly and good qualities in a young man will never lack male companionship. Young men go where they are praised. A wife that learns to praise her husband will fill her husband’s love tank and he will not be tempted by the adulteress woman who uses flattery, which is an insincere form of praise, to manipulate and entice him. When a man starts to praise himself it is because he is so starved for praise that he will give himself praise. When a man does that then the temptation is even more to not praise him but it is when he needs it the most. Men face failure all of the time and they need a wife who believes in them. Praise your husband. To deliver you from the strange woman, From the adulteress who flatters with her words; Proverbs 2:16

A man can not tell the difference between praise and flattery from a woman. They sound the same but the motives are different. Praise is sincere and flattery is for selfish reasons and to lay a trap for the one who is flattered.

A Life that Receives Instruction

The Bible describes a fool as one who will not receive instruction. A wise person receives instruction, benefits from it and is blessed. A wise person seeks out instruction and is grateful for it. A wise person’s life is saved through instruction. The Lord wants to give us instruction on how to live that we may truly experience life and not death.

Psalm 78:1 Listen, O my people, to my instruction; Incline your ears to the words of my mouth.

He will become your gold and your treasure when you learn to receive His instruction. Good will come to you and you will be at peace with God. He will restore you where you are broken. You will find delight in Him and He will hear your prayers. He will become your Savior and your Deliverer. Return to Him if you have strayed from Him and receive His instruction.

Job 22:21-30 “Yield now and be at peace with Him;
Thereby good will come to you.
“Please receive instruction from His mouth
And establish His words in your heart.
“If you return to the Almighty, you will be restored;
If you remove unrighteousness far from your tent,
And place your gold in the dust,
And the gold of Ophir among the stones of the brooks,
Then the Almighty will be your gold
And choice silver to you.
“For then you will delight in the Almighty
And lift up your face to God.
“You will pray to Him, and He will hear you;
And you will pay your vows.
“You will also decree a thing, and it will be established for you;
And light will shine on your ways.
“When you are cast down, you will speak with confidence,
And the humble person He will save.
“He will deliver one who is not innocent,
And he will be delivered through the cleanness of your hands.”

Don’t be a fool but learn to fear the Lord. He is good and He loves you. He will forgive you of any wrong doing and He will instruct you in the way you should go.

Proverbs 1:7 The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; Fools despise wisdom and instruction.

When He gives you instruction then do it, exactly as He says.

Proverbs 4:13 Take hold of instruction; do not let go. Guard her, for she is your life.

Don’t neglect your time in His Word for it is through His Word that He will give you instruction.

Proverbs 8:33 “Heed instruction and be wise, And do not neglect it.

He came that you might have life and His instruction will keep you on the path of life. Is there something that He has been trying to tell you?

Proverbs 10:17 He is on the path of life who heeds instruction, But he who ignores reproof goes astray.

Don’t ignore what the Old Testament has to say for it was written for our instruction so that through perseverance and the encouragement of His Word we might have hope.

Romans 15:4 For whatever was written in earlier times was written for our instruction, so that through perseverance and the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope.

The Lord has put people in our lives to give us instruction. Listen to them. For they will give an account to the Lord.

I Thessalonians 5:12 But we request of you, brethren, that you appreciate those who diligently labor among you, and have charge over you in the Lord and give you instruction,

Finally, as the Lord has called all of us to instruct others, let it be done according to God’s Word, with great patience.

II Timothy 4:2 preach the word; be ready in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort, with great patience and instruction.

Always, let the goal of our instruction be love…that others might love the Lord and excel in loving others. That the world might know that we are Christians by our love for one another.

I Timothy 1:5 But the goal of our instruction is love from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith.

 

 

A Life with a Great Marriage

Marriage can be the sweetest of all relationships and is the only union of two people where there can be a oneness of spirit, soul and body. However, to have a great marriage it must be done according to the plan of the One who designed marriage. He knew what needed to be done and gave us clear instructions. If these instructions are followed then the results are far greater than can be imagined. A great marriage is a taste of heaven.

but just as it is written, “Things which eye has not seen and ear has not heard, And which have not entered the heart of man, All that God has prepared for those who love Him.” I Corinthians 2:9

What God has prepared for the man and woman who will love Him is beyond what we have seen or heard or imagined.

For from days of old they have not heard or perceived by ear, Nor has the eye seen a God besides You, Who acts in behalf of the one who waits for Him. Isaiah 64:4

His ways are perfect and He does all things well. God’s ways are the right way and if we do not follow His ways then we will experience much heart ache, much disappointment and much pain. We will become “disillusioned” with marriage and the other gender.

“For My thoughts are not your thoughts,
Nor are your ways My ways,” declares the Lord.
“For as the heavens are higher than the earth,
So are My ways higher than your ways
And My thoughts than your thoughts. Isaiah 55:8,9

However, it is not God who has failed us but we have failed ourselves by not following His ways. How often we think that we “know better” or that there is some “new way” that is better, but not so. God’s ways are perfect and He blesses the one who listens to Him and follows His ways. His ways are the right way or another word for His ways is “righteousness”.

You meet him who rejoices in doing righteousness,
Who remembers You in Your ways. Isaiah 64:5a

Return to God’s ways in marriage and you will find rest for your soul. You will no longer have to constantly “work at it” but your marriage will work for you and fill your cup until it runs over. The emptiness will leave and the love will return that you had when you first met the one you married or when you first were married. The Lord will meet you where you are, whatever the state of your marriage. He will show you His way if you cry out to Him and ask Him to show you His way, rather than looking elsewhere.

Thus says the Lord, “Stand by the ways and see and ask for the ancient paths, Where the good way is, and walk in it; And you will find rest for your souls. Jeremiah 6:16

The Bible has God’s blueprint for marriage. There are many instructions but it must begin with a man and a woman who love the Lord and are seeking Him with all of their hearts. He says that two are better than one and a cord of three strands is not easily broken. Many marriages and families end up broken because they did not lay the right foundation in the beginning. However, it is never too late to change. Repentance means to change direction and to look to the Lord rather than going your own way or doing what you think is best. True repentance comes from a broken and contrite heart and a lowly spirit.

For thus says the high and exalted One Who lives forever, whose name is Holy, “I dwell on a high and holy place, And also with the contrite and lowly of spirit In order to revive the spirit of the lowly And to revive the heart of the contrite. Isaiah 57:15

The Lord will revive those who come to Him with a humble and contrite heart and He will teach them His way. He first revives the individuals and then He revives the marriages and families.

He teaches the humble His way. Psalm 25:9b

As you follow His ways then you will see success follow you.

His ways prosper at all times; Psalm 10:5a

How rich is the marriage and family that lives according to His ways. How blessed are the children where love, joy and peace are ever present in the home. How sweet is the union of two people who live in harmony with each other. There is no comparison to God’s ways and the couple who will trust Him will never stop loving Him and each other.

Oh, the depth of the riches both of the wisdom and knowledge of God! How unsearchable are His judgments and unfathomable His ways! Romans 11:33

A Life Understanding Man’s Need for a Lover

God’s design for a wife is that she is to be her husband’s lover. A man’s need for a wife is deeply embedded in his need for a lover. God’s design is so good that a husband will not only be satisfied with his wife as his lover but he will be intoxicated with her love. When Adam saw Eve, his response was (WOW!). The original Hebrew can not adequately translate it into English but that was basically his response.

The man said, “This is now bone of my bones,
And flesh of my flesh;
She shall be called Woman,
Because she was taken out of Man.” Genesis 2:23

The Lord still wants to give a wife to a husband and the Bible says that if the man does it right then on his wedding night he will be so lit up on her love that he will outshine the sun.

In the heavens God has pitched a tent for the sun.
It is like a bridegroom coming out of his chamber, Psalm 19:4b,5a

Understanding a Wife’s Gift to Her Husband as His Lover

A female has the unique privilege to be called a gift, a reward and a favor to a man. The Lord made man with a physical appetite for the most intimate expression of love. A woman does not have the same physical appetite. A woman longs for the love of a man just as a man longs to love a woman. If a man has physical intimacy with a woman outside of marriage then it is “like sitting down and eating a steak dinner”. It will satisfy his appetite for the moment but it will not satisfy his deepest longings and needs. A man longs to know and be known. The word for physical intimacy in the Bible was that the husband was “to know” his wife. A man wants his wife to be unknown by all other men. She is to belong to him alone. A woman is a mystery to a man in many ways and that mystique that she has is part of her beauty. She is a much finer aspect of creation. Her beauty is not just physical but it is in her character, it is in her purity, it is in her innocence and it is her manner.

Enjoy life with the woman whom you love all the days of your fleeting life which He has given to you under the sun; for this is your reward in life and in your toil in which you have labored under the sun. Ecclesiastes 9:9

Understand that God’s ways are the best for girls and women. He does all things well. If you will keep yourself pure and become the woman that God designed you to be then you will be beautiful to the man God gives you to and will be treated like a queen by your king. A man has only one heart and life to give and he wants to give it to a girl who has not been with another man. There is something within a man that compels him to treat a woman of fine character and beauty with respect. Beauty is on the inside and causes any woman to be beautiful to the man that God has designed for her. Also, marry a man who has kept himself pure then he will be faithful to you as he has learned to keep his physical appetites under control.

IF you have not stayed pure then ask God to cleanse your heart, mind and soul. Give yourself to the Lord and He will make you into a new creation. He is the Creator and He is the only One who can make all things new. He can and will restore your purity if you give yourself to Him, but then you must keep yourself pure by His strength. There is always hope in God no matter how much a person has messed up, if they will turn to Him.

Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come. II Corinthians 5:17