Every man longs for praise. It is food for his soul and like honey to his mouth. It is sweet to him and keeps him going and believing that much is possible. A man will go where he is praised. A man becomes what he is praised. He needs to go from his mother’s praise to the praise of his wife. The praise of his mother when he is younger gives him the courage and faith to attempt great things. The praise of his wife encourages him in his successes and keeps him from being depressed and down in his failures. A man’s need for praise is fundamental to his well being. Every man struggles with a fear of failure but when he has a wife who believes in him then those fears are overcome. It is true that behind every great man is a great wife but she is a great wife because she is full of praise for her husband.
Understanding a Wife’s Need to Praise Her Husband
Women are often reluctant to praise a man but it is because she does not understand that praise to a man is like love to a woman. Without praise the man’s soul will dry up he will struggle with self worth. A man’s ego is what causes him to be a man and act like a man. It is a good thing in God’s design. A man’s ego is what makes him want to provide well for his wife and children. A man’s ego is a vital part of who he is. A woman does not have the same emotional makeup so she does not understand. She mistakes ego with pride. They are two very different things. Pride is trusting in yourself apart from God. Ego is trusting God to make you into the person that he designed. A man will become the person that he is praised. A son will become what his mother praises and a husband will become the man that his wife sees him as and praises him for being. Praise is genuine appreciation for what God has done in someone. We often see it but are hesitant to say it. Blessed is the man who finds a wife who will praise him.Let another praise you, and not your own mouth; Proverbs 27:2a A girl that learns to sincerely appreciate godly and good qualities in a young man will never lack male companionship. Young men go where they are praised. A wife that learns to praise her husband will fill her husband’s love tank and he will not be tempted by the adulteress woman who uses flattery, which is an insincere form of praise, to manipulate and entice him. When a man starts to praise himself it is because he is so starved for praise that he will give himself praise. When a man does that then the temptation is even more to not praise him but it is when he needs it the most. Men face failure all of the time and they need a wife who believes in them. Praise your husband. To deliver you from the strange woman, From the adulteress who flatters with her words; Proverbs 2:16
A man can not tell the difference between praise and flattery from a woman. They sound the same but the motives are different. Praise is sincere and flattery is for selfish reasons and to lay a trap for the one who is flattered.
Instructions To A Young Life 